Loss and Infertility
The stresses associated with infertility may feel overwhelming. Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after one year of unprotected sex. One in six couples in Canada face fertility problems.
In Canada, infertility is considered a perinatal loss. Some common emotions include:
- a sense of inadequacy and worthlessness;
- loss and grief over and over;
- loneliness and isolation;
- impact on relationships – some positive, some negative;
- less sexual pleasure and decrease in sexual activity due to the infertility journey;
- a lack of psychological support; and
- a lack of compassion and caring from health care providers.
In addition to these emotions are the financial effects and the recurring memories of the physical and psychological pain of fertility treatments.
Grief that comes after loss is very individual. The expression and intensity of grief that comes with infertility is unique as well. Finding support may help.
- Friends and family may help by providing practical support and companionship.
- Professional counsellors may help you understand your infertility and the emotions you are dealing with.
- Your primary health-care provider may be a source of support.
- Spiritual groups may provide fellowship, comfort and connection to others.
- Support groups (online groups, forums, in-person groups) may provide connections to others who have had similar experiences.
Experiencing the grief that comes through loss is part of the healing process. Your journey through loss to healing is important.