“Discipline” actually means “teaching.” Teaching is about setting goals for learning, planning a practical approach, and finding solutions that work. While parenting children, parents are often learning themselves. Finding the facts about what we know works with discipline is a great first step.

“Positive discipline” is respectful of the child. It is nonviolent and includes a process that helps children succeed, gives them information, and supports their growth.

Discipline is a way of teaching children how to:

• solve problems
• think for themselves
• get along with others
• resolve conflict
• do the right thing (even when you are not there)

Discipline is not doing something to children; it is working with them appropriately to their developmental level. Understanding how children think and feel is important for positive discipline.  Discipline shows children:

• what they have done wrong
• gives them ownership of the problem (appropriate to their age and development)
• gives them options for solving the problem
• shows them respect
• leaves their dignity intact

How do I positively discipline my child?

• Provide warmth and structure
• Offer praise and affection regularly
• Consider what your child is thinking and how they are feeling
• Talk to your child, so they know what the rules and limits are
• Plan transitions from one activity to the next
• Offer limited and realistic choices that you can accept
• Know what behaviours to ignore
• Accept that they will make mistakes
• Be a role model

Let your child know what you expect. Remind them regularly about rules and limits. A good limit:

• is appropriate to your child’s age and stage of development
• helps your child learn self-control
• protects your child and others
• is explained using simple language
• is used consistently, respectfully, and kindly

Learning how to manage common challenging behaviours can help as you teach young children using positive discipline.

Services related to this information:

• Contact your Public Health Nurse or health-care provider to discuss your child’s behaviour.
• Contact your local Family Resource Centre for parenting programs and support.
• Strongest Families Children and Youth Programs
  Free skill-based educational programs for children, youth, adults, and families seeking help to improve mental health and well-being.
• 811 HealthLine (Newfoundland & Labrador) – Call 811 or 1-888-709-2929 / TTY 1-888-709-3555